after re-reading the text i thought about what it would mean to each of us to have our story told in a way as to reflect our own personal thoughts and beliefs as explained and understood by another hopfully opposing person. or maybe i meant our controversal thoughts and beliefs, if this was so maybe we would make some important connects in resolving some of our world issues.
when reading this i noted that the author said that she uses poerty to reflect a persons views in some of her Stories, this touched me emincly as i enjoy writing poerty as a way to express my views and yes, sometimes my opinions.
I know that throught out history there were are oral histories that needed to be told, shakespearean time and in many African cultures families (esspecially weathy families) had their own story tellers (called Griots). so i see the importances of this.
how ever as we processed into the future we increased our options of genres, however i personally am not in favor of most things visional (other then readings) i just think (visional) video things limits our imagnation.
many years ago i started to listen to audio books: i now own over three hundred titles, and have borrowed another hundred or more from libraries all over the U.S, i learned that this allows you to hear and invision a life or experience that you wouldn't otherwise imagine.
one of the first historial tapes i listened to was an oral history called " THE SUBSTANCE OF THINGS HOPED FOR." about Samuel D. Proctor: An African -American Preacher, college Professor, college administrator, and Associate Director of the Peace Corp. if my life could be told via my choice of techinques it would be audio, i would like for someone to lay back with their eyes closed, and imagine what it was like for me. what my house, kids, etc looked like rather then seeing picture.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Thursday, December 1, 2011
How far are we from jim crow laws?
a rose by any other name...
Below is a clip from a news story 12-1-11, from Associated Press.
Stella Harville and her fiancé, Ticha Chikuni are seen in Richmond, Ky., in a November 2010 photo provided by Stella Harville. Stella’s childhood church in Pike County, Kentucky, the Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church, voted to ban interracial couples from becoming members at the church after the pair sang a song during a visit to the church over the summer. (AP Photo/Stella Harville)
Legal issues
Jim Crow Laws: so of the most oppressive laws to ever be in affect are the Jim crow laws, these were a group of laws compiled by most of the southern states in the United States. they were laws that effected the personal lives of both blacks and whites however they were inforced only against the blacks or Nergoes.
these were laws that said your money is as good as anyones else so yes, you can pay us, you can buy our goods at the same price or more but you can not share space and time with us as you do it.
there were issue like if you were an African-American you can pay to ride our bus, but you must come to the front and put your money in, go back out and enter the back door and sit in the back of the bus, and if the bus is full you are mandated to give your seat up to a white rider. most of us know this story, we also know that Rosa Parks refuse to give up her seat and thus started the Bus strike of Alabama. however Jim Crow Laws ran further and deeper then that. many people don't know that one of the greatest Blues and Jazz Singers died because of a Jim Crow Law.
Blues singer Bessie Smith (aka) "Empress of the blues" the highest paid Black entertainer in the 1920's was leaving a club when she was in an automobile accident, there was a call for an ambulance when it arrive there were white EMT's who refuse to treat or transport the singer because she was African-American and no one told them. the second call out for an ambulance driven by a black driver, that took Ms. Smith to a black Hospital futher out then the white only hospital when she had lost so much blood and died with out regaining conscienceness.
These laws went so far as to out-law the promotion of equality between black and white, so far as to say that even after you are dead blacks could not be buried in the same cemetaries, and white's could not be handled by black undertakers.
It was these oppressings that facilitated the civil right movements. These laws started in the 1800's as the Black codes and were late enacted as Jim crow laws in the 1880's and was enforced until the civil right act of 1964 and the voting rights of 1965.
amongst the states that had interracial marriage laws were; Fla., Miss., Az.,Missouri, Georgia, Maryland and Wyoming. Check out my Next blog and tell me have we really changed that much?
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Occupy Providence Part 3
This week-end i visit Occupy Providence for just a short time, as there has been a lot of out-side issue that appeals to be redirecting the focus of the movement. I spoke to a couple of people as there was some on-going conversations on what was happening in other cities and what to expect in the near future for Providence.
One very important thing that did happen earlier this past week, that plays right into how any of this reflects on the feminism movement in 2011, is that there was a vandal, who ran through the camp ruining tents,
signs, and the kitchen area. he was caught by security that was set up by the movement and turned over to the police. (I was not there for any of that) but there was talk this week within the camp itself about safety. on saturday night a group that was 90% women talked about there feeling of safety. it was decided that it was important to stick together both literally and figurtivly.
i feel that it was an important decision for women to continue to take part in this movement, as we need to be visible in any movement that promotes any kind of equality we can't expect to come in as a foot note and still expect the same credits.
In the text Privilege and Power by Allen Johnson, Mr. Johnson suggests that we must put put aside our baises in order to deal with the issues that needs to be addressed. In the occupy movements all baises has to be second to none in order to deal with the bigger issue of being one of the 99% . which in turn suggest that we are all in this together and we are all allies in this as well. this is a movement that umbrellas all inequalities as an extension of it's base.
but what i see over all is that as prilivege goes, we are all still ruled by the "Swammp" who decides who, what , when and how... We, society, can do or say. and they the leaders across the country is telling us that they are done.... enough is enough. Bloomburg said " They have had two months to occupy wall street and i ALLOWED IT'.
now there are government movements to end the occupy movement.
it is time that we take a real look at how we vote and for whom we vote. then know why we vote for who we vote for.
it goes with out saying that our representatives does not represent us well. if they can not hear us (long before now) saying that we need to make a living to stay alive then we will never be more then the 1% that we are.
One very important thing that did happen earlier this past week, that plays right into how any of this reflects on the feminism movement in 2011, is that there was a vandal, who ran through the camp ruining tents,
signs, and the kitchen area. he was caught by security that was set up by the movement and turned over to the police. (I was not there for any of that) but there was talk this week within the camp itself about safety. on saturday night a group that was 90% women talked about there feeling of safety. it was decided that it was important to stick together both literally and figurtivly.
i feel that it was an important decision for women to continue to take part in this movement, as we need to be visible in any movement that promotes any kind of equality we can't expect to come in as a foot note and still expect the same credits.
In the text Privilege and Power by Allen Johnson, Mr. Johnson suggests that we must put put aside our baises in order to deal with the issues that needs to be addressed. In the occupy movements all baises has to be second to none in order to deal with the bigger issue of being one of the 99% . which in turn suggest that we are all in this together and we are all allies in this as well. this is a movement that umbrellas all inequalities as an extension of it's base.
but what i see over all is that as prilivege goes, we are all still ruled by the "Swammp" who decides who, what , when and how... We, society, can do or say. and they the leaders across the country is telling us that they are done.... enough is enough. Bloomburg said " They have had two months to occupy wall street and i ALLOWED IT'.
now there are government movements to end the occupy movement.
it is time that we take a real look at how we vote and for whom we vote. then know why we vote for who we vote for.
it goes with out saying that our representatives does not represent us well. if they can not hear us (long before now) saying that we need to make a living to stay alive then we will never be more then the 1% that we are.
Sexy from the start.
Scanlon painted a good picture of the change in the movement, but i don't quite know where she her self stands.
But it is clear to me that i am at least confused between "Girl Cuture" and Thrird wave "Feminism". Or at least what others thinks of it. For sometime many have looked at Feminies as "Women who wants to be men" and i believed or at least hope that they were as i saw myself as "Women who wanted the opportunuies that any other person would have been afforded as a citizen and a human without reference to who or what else i am" I.E a Woman, a Black Woman, a Mother, etc.
As much as i feel that Rebecca Walker's views quoted " a feminism must never compromise herself, must never make concession for money, or for love. must always be devoted to the uplifting of her gender, must only make an admirable and selfless livelihood, preferably working for a women's organization."
As reflection of her childhood are very harst ideologies to live by, i will bite if offered as views that are the lesser of two evils.
But i can't buy into developing a whole new society/ community as the answer to an unjust society that will reverse the victim.
I ask does second wave Feminist's want equality, inclusion or dupication?
and only when we get this answer will we know where we are as third wave Feminist.
Why can't we Women Be "ALL THAT WE CAN BE" ?
But it is clear to me that i am at least confused between "Girl Cuture" and Thrird wave "Feminism". Or at least what others thinks of it. For sometime many have looked at Feminies as "Women who wants to be men" and i believed or at least hope that they were as i saw myself as "Women who wanted the opportunuies that any other person would have been afforded as a citizen and a human without reference to who or what else i am" I.E a Woman, a Black Woman, a Mother, etc.
As reflection of her childhood are very harst ideologies to live by, i will bite if offered as views that are the lesser of two evils.
But i can't buy into developing a whole new society/ community as the answer to an unjust society that will reverse the victim.
I ask does second wave Feminist's want equality, inclusion or dupication?
and only when we get this answer will we know where we are as third wave Feminist.
Why can't we Women Be "ALL THAT WE CAN BE" ?
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
who am i, what am i ?
Who am I? What am I?
Who am I? What am I?
That in which you cannot understand.
For I am a spirit, a hymn,
A psalm, a dream, a hope
An intention, a dimension.
I am time, space, air, I am a place.
I am the white dove of peace, the green eyes of jealousy,
The purple heart of bravery, the Red Cross of help.
I am salvation, desperation, anxiety.
I am the heat from the fire, the smoke from the flame.
I am the reason, I am the blame.
Who am I? What am I? I do not know,
From day to day what I am will continue to grow.
I am yesterday, today, and tomorrow, I am up and I am down
I am the tears of sorrow, I am the smiles of happiness, I am
The fear of fright, and the laughter of joy.
Who am I? What am I? I do not know for today
I am rain and tomorrow I’ll be snow.
I am versatile, adjustable, I am flexible.
I change with the weather, the day and the time
I am for most, the wind in a spiritual way
I am for myself unique and divine…
Sheila Robinson-young
1992
UNITED
United….
It is not our talk that makes us strong
Nor our walk that took so long.
It is not the fight that took our lives
Not the rights that we compromises
Nor the light that left our eyes.
It is not the winning or the losing
That matters so much.
It is nothing…no-thing of the sort.
It is the call to order, the answer,
The stand.
It is the action, the reaction that
We demand.
It is we, united, going over and above
Us conquering and achieving, that makes
Us strong.
It is the pride, the praise, and the victory
The song!
Had it in me all the time.
After reading over my site i realized that i just need a name to pull this all together for me. The many texts we have read and the many discussions we've had in class, excited me more and more each week. It opened up my eyes, it is what i have been living for so long. trying to see myself as who i am, all of me as a whole, all at one time. I've often felt broken up into little pieces so as to be explained. Much of this comes from with in myself and still more from society. Being from a large family no matter how nice it was left my identity shaky at the least, then being a young mother ( well most of us knows what we will give up for a child) it's not always tangible or clearly outlined, and never regretted. On my site back in Power and Privilege... i incented a part of a essay ( INSTITUTIONAL RACISM) i wrote back in 1998, i wrote this just because it was on my mind at the time. again i share a poem that i had written in 2009 (SISTERHOOD), i would like to share In my next two blogs that deals with the subjects we address in class. the first is (UNITED) This one was written in the early 90's and the last is a more complexed poem about being who and what you individually needs to be for yourself, this one i wrote in 1991 for a group of a athletes at the wholwe scholar games at URI.
I'm sharing all of this because i believe i've had it in me all along, and this class give me a voice, to speak out what i been writing for so long. it also gave me the "Substance of things hoped for" that in the future by and by equality would make us all whole.
I'm sharing all of this because i believe i've had it in me all along, and this class give me a voice, to speak out what i been writing for so long. it also gave me the "Substance of things hoped for" that in the future by and by equality would make us all whole.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
hyperlinks: Abstince-only (M.J Wagle)
It was appauling to read in this text that educational programs of all things knowingly teaching youth false facts and information. Can you imagine when they find out that the infor they were given was mis-leading PURPOSELY !!! So when they stop believing in the information that was given to them on Abstinence who will teach them about safe sex? ( MAYBE THEIR 14 OR 15 YEAR OLD FRIEND WHO HAS BEEN ACTIVE FOR A WHILE, AND JUST BLESSED ENOUGH NOT TO HAVE CONTRACTED ANYTHING OR GOTTEN PREGNANT). Then she tells her friends "You can't get pregnant if you are on top" or some other crazy rumors she's heard. It is just as bad to mis-inform a young man or woman as it is to not inform at all. The sad results could be real babies having babies. Because teens are not babies as much as we would like for them to be. They are young adults with hopes, dreams, and life goals. They are in the process of planning their lives and this (proper) information could be used in this planning process.
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Wednesday, November 2, 2011
can you **** believe this
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Occupy Providence.
My experience with Occupy Providence this week-end was crazy, sad, exiting, fun, educational.
Friday night:
I was talking to my brother about the snow coming saturday, and he brought up "the people in that park downtown" how they will all be going home tomorrow because of the snow, and i said i didn't think so. So that give me the idea to take a drive by to see how thing was progressing. about 8:15 pm i got there and they were at the statue, they were passing along information (by echoing each other). I just listened for a while, learned that they had a petition at one of the booths that turned out to be a sort of information booth. I read then signed it, walked around for an hour or more (until i couldn't feel my feet). as i was walking though many people passed me and told me food was being served. I was surpised that they were so organized, they have set hours for meals,meetings and other things. The information booth could tell you were to find what is going on within the camp as well as what is planned (something at india piont park saturday). I left with a good feeling, i liked what was going on, but i had not interacted just been a spectator.
I went home and packed my car with items to give,i wanted to be invovled.
Saturday morning i arrived about 9:30 am, car load, as i was unpacking my car i had my trunk open getting things out a meter reader came by walked past me still in my trunk and stopped at the front of my car and give me a $25 ticket. Normally as i visit the library weekly they see you , they say something if you are there and parked wrongly,she said not a word and did not even look at the meter which had time on it but she saw me pull up and not put anything in the meter. I put down the things, walked to the front of my car and held my hand out for the ticket, i did not say a thing, she gave me the ticket all the while refusing to look at me.I looked at the meter and it still had 8 minutes on it but i could not complain she saw me drive up and not put any thing in the meter. she moved on and started tell a group of people that they could not stand on the street, that they should not have their children out here. (they seem to have been holding a parking spot for someone by standing in the spot).
Any way i went up to a man cooking and asked what could i do to help,he told me he had just came to give support, he was a chef at a hotel and he was cooking ormelets to order. He called another man and introduced him (Mike)in charge of and volunteers, who asked me if i cooked (My speciality) but i was not about to try to cook beside a chef, i cut veggies for him, after meeting (Dave) who was in charge of organizing the donations. I turned over my load. Asked what did they need the most and if anything else i could do? sugar,tuna, plates. he also said that some people were coming by daily and picking up supplies and cooking at home and bringing it back. i volunteered for Sunday's dinner i would supply the food.
Saturday night.
I arrived as promised with supplies ( sugar, tuna, fruits, plates ect.)and my husband in tow, he is always amazed at what America allows.(he didn't want me to go because he heard that the police was evicting them and i might get arrested). When we got there it was about 7pm we walked around, my husband is bold and more outgoing asked a lot a questions and at one piont took off with some guy name Kenneth to meet and talk and listen to the drums they were playing. There were a rap session going on and he was in ah'. We read and ken explained all the signs posted around the park. We both could not believe how many people was staying out there that night in all that cold rain and snow.
Sunday night:
I raced home to cook and arrived with food right at 8:06 pm, dinner time, With my husband. We stayed only a short while, but while we were there they were having announcments(again by echo-gramming) they were informing people of the up coming deadline to move out of the park. And the civil protest laws and if anyone for any reason could no longer be invovled they should do what is necessary for their well being (so to speak). Again the police is out giving tickets (did not get one this time) and just standing around waiting for anything to happen. So far i see only a peaceful gathering, how ever i noticed that alot of the regular homless has joined them. a man Bobby was standing by me they were asking people why they came, what they thought of the movement etc. he did not go up their but he was telling my husband and my self that he and his wife came from Conn. they were homless their and just thought they would come here. but his wife had gotten sick as she has MS. (I suggested that tho' the movemnet was great maybe it was not for her that maybe she should try to get into a shelter just for the night. also told him about a clothing bank as he mentioned he had pretty much whats on his back.) one thing i didn't notice was if they had resource infor for this purpose?
Friday night:
I was talking to my brother about the snow coming saturday, and he brought up "the people in that park downtown" how they will all be going home tomorrow because of the snow, and i said i didn't think so. So that give me the idea to take a drive by to see how thing was progressing. about 8:15 pm i got there and they were at the statue, they were passing along information (by echoing each other). I just listened for a while, learned that they had a petition at one of the booths that turned out to be a sort of information booth. I read then signed it, walked around for an hour or more (until i couldn't feel my feet). as i was walking though many people passed me and told me food was being served. I was surpised that they were so organized, they have set hours for meals,meetings and other things. The information booth could tell you were to find what is going on within the camp as well as what is planned (something at india piont park saturday). I left with a good feeling, i liked what was going on, but i had not interacted just been a spectator.
I went home and packed my car with items to give,i wanted to be invovled.
Saturday morning i arrived about 9:30 am, car load, as i was unpacking my car i had my trunk open getting things out a meter reader came by walked past me still in my trunk and stopped at the front of my car and give me a $25 ticket. Normally as i visit the library weekly they see you , they say something if you are there and parked wrongly,she said not a word and did not even look at the meter which had time on it but she saw me pull up and not put anything in the meter. I put down the things, walked to the front of my car and held my hand out for the ticket, i did not say a thing, she gave me the ticket all the while refusing to look at me.I looked at the meter and it still had 8 minutes on it but i could not complain she saw me drive up and not put any thing in the meter. she moved on and started tell a group of people that they could not stand on the street, that they should not have their children out here. (they seem to have been holding a parking spot for someone by standing in the spot).
Any way i went up to a man cooking and asked what could i do to help,he told me he had just came to give support, he was a chef at a hotel and he was cooking ormelets to order. He called another man and introduced him (Mike)in charge of and volunteers, who asked me if i cooked (My speciality) but i was not about to try to cook beside a chef, i cut veggies for him, after meeting (Dave) who was in charge of organizing the donations. I turned over my load. Asked what did they need the most and if anything else i could do? sugar,tuna, plates. he also said that some people were coming by daily and picking up supplies and cooking at home and bringing it back. i volunteered for Sunday's dinner i would supply the food.
Saturday night.
I arrived as promised with supplies ( sugar, tuna, fruits, plates ect.)and my husband in tow, he is always amazed at what America allows.(he didn't want me to go because he heard that the police was evicting them and i might get arrested). When we got there it was about 7pm we walked around, my husband is bold and more outgoing asked a lot a questions and at one piont took off with some guy name Kenneth to meet and talk and listen to the drums they were playing. There were a rap session going on and he was in ah'. We read and ken explained all the signs posted around the park. We both could not believe how many people was staying out there that night in all that cold rain and snow.
Sunday night:
I raced home to cook and arrived with food right at 8:06 pm, dinner time, With my husband. We stayed only a short while, but while we were there they were having announcments(again by echo-gramming) they were informing people of the up coming deadline to move out of the park. And the civil protest laws and if anyone for any reason could no longer be invovled they should do what is necessary for their well being (so to speak). Again the police is out giving tickets (did not get one this time) and just standing around waiting for anything to happen. So far i see only a peaceful gathering, how ever i noticed that alot of the regular homless has joined them. a man Bobby was standing by me they were asking people why they came, what they thought of the movement etc. he did not go up their but he was telling my husband and my self that he and his wife came from Conn. they were homless their and just thought they would come here. but his wife had gotten sick as she has MS. (I suggested that tho' the movemnet was great maybe it was not for her that maybe she should try to get into a shelter just for the night. also told him about a clothing bank as he mentioned he had pretty much whats on his back.) one thing i didn't notice was if they had resource infor for this purpose?
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Connections.
Andrea Ayvazian's Interrupting the cycle of oppression:
This text is a living document, it is a great out-line for who,when and how to be a positive part of a movement.
I have been blessed and i learn more and more everyday just how be a ally. I spoke last time in class about one of my sons "Claytonius". Claytonius was a child that kept me in Ah' and grew to be a young man literally ahead of him self. I was less protective of him because i didn't know how to protect a presence so large. Where he got his ideas from? I have no idea where Claytoius got some of ideas and thoughts from. He was so young. At 13 years old he was a youth Board Member for D.A.R.E (Direct Actions For Rights and Equality)daretowin.org And at 15 assisted in finding PrYSM at PrYSM.us. Claytonius enjoy making a difference, making changes,and helping everybody. He believe in progress, and equality over all things. Claytonius is the epitome of an ally, he see the need for support and he gives it. More over he was the one that taught me about being an ally, with one little phase. When i asked him one day about protesting for illegal deportation, "why are you going to this rally, you was born right here in Virgina?" He said MoM!, politcal injustice is every bodies' business." from that day forward i have always tried to be aware and assist.
This text is a living document, it is a great out-line for who,when and how to be a positive part of a movement.
I have been blessed and i learn more and more everyday just how be a ally. I spoke last time in class about one of my sons "Claytonius". Claytonius was a child that kept me in Ah' and grew to be a young man literally ahead of him self. I was less protective of him because i didn't know how to protect a presence so large. Where he got his ideas from? I have no idea where Claytoius got some of ideas and thoughts from. He was so young. At 13 years old he was a youth Board Member for D.A.R.E (Direct Actions For Rights and Equality)daretowin.org And at 15 assisted in finding PrYSM at PrYSM.us. Claytonius enjoy making a difference, making changes,and helping everybody. He believe in progress, and equality over all things. Claytonius is the epitome of an ally, he see the need for support and he gives it. More over he was the one that taught me about being an ally, with one little phase. When i asked him one day about protesting for illegal deportation, "why are you going to this rally, you was born right here in Virgina?" He said MoM!, politcal injustice is every bodies' business." from that day forward i have always tried to be aware and assist.
Thursday, October 27, 2011
summit: two small steps for mankind...
Just thought this was interesting. BBC news reports Summit to discuss changing laws that out-laws homosexuality.
And giving the royal families' daughters equal rights to succeed to the throne as the royal families' sons .
The Queen kicks off this 2 day summit today.....
issue to be discussed include the human rights record of Sri Lanka - which is due to host the next summit - and moves to get rid of laws in some member states which discriminate against gay men and lesbians, our correspondent says.
He adds that there will also be discussions on proposals to change the laws of succession to the British throne, to give females heirs the same status as males. we have so far to go...
And giving the royal families' daughters equal rights to succeed to the throne as the royal families' sons .
The Queen kicks off this 2 day summit today.....
issue to be discussed include the human rights record of Sri Lanka - which is due to host the next summit - and moves to get rid of laws in some member states which discriminate against gay men and lesbians, our correspondent says.
He adds that there will also be discussions on proposals to change the laws of succession to the British throne, to give females heirs the same status as males. we have so far to go...
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Cinderella Ate my Daughter. reflections of...
The question was What's wrong with Cinderella? The answer is Nothing! It should be what's wrong with us?
There is nothing wrong with cinderella if we stop projecting everything on to our children or on to each other.
Cinderella is just a story just like "Polar Express" "God,it me Margret," and "Huck Finn". These stories are meant to entertain chidlren, they are not meant to be a study guide for kids with giant imaginations, depressed pre-teens or advantagerous boys during the great depression.
The largest part of the problem is that we just will not think for ourselves. And we tend to live our lives behaving ingenuious to what is implied,when we allow our kids to feed into this bull. We knew from the start that these stories were not just meant to entertain girls or boys. it is implied that girls should, work hard at home(slaving for her family) endure mistreatment with grace and wait to be saved by the most handsomest rich guy you can imagine. And just because you have him and you suffered gracefully, you will live happily ever after. This is true in Cinderella, Snow white, Sleeping beauty and even the new version of rahpunzia. And on the other hand it implies to boys they every girl is weak or lost with out them and their LOVE. That they are doomed to housekeeping, sleep/death, and/or (locked away)trapped. That only their Kiss (acceptance) can save us. HUH!!!
There is nothing wrong with cinderella if we stop projecting everything on to our children or on to each other.
Cinderella is just a story just like "Polar Express" "God,it me Margret," and "Huck Finn". These stories are meant to entertain chidlren, they are not meant to be a study guide for kids with giant imaginations, depressed pre-teens or advantagerous boys during the great depression.
The largest part of the problem is that we just will not think for ourselves. And we tend to live our lives behaving ingenuious to what is implied,when we allow our kids to feed into this bull. We knew from the start that these stories were not just meant to entertain girls or boys. it is implied that girls should, work hard at home(slaving for her family) endure mistreatment with grace and wait to be saved by the most handsomest rich guy you can imagine. And just because you have him and you suffered gracefully, you will live happily ever after. This is true in Cinderella, Snow white, Sleeping beauty and even the new version of rahpunzia. And on the other hand it implies to boys they every girl is weak or lost with out them and their LOVE. That they are doomed to housekeeping, sleep/death, and/or (locked away)trapped. That only their Kiss (acceptance) can save us. HUH!!!
Just wanted to share a thought.
We talked about Allies in class and it got me to thinking. We should think about what and how we sometimes oppress/suppress ourselves and/or each other.
I use to facilitate a Woman's Group called "Babylon Sisters" and our focus was on our responsiblity to women "both ourselves and others". I wrote this poem as a creed for our group.
The creed of Sisterhood
Sister
I am a friend to you, I am a friend to your soul, I offer you Peace, patience, Understanding, Empathy, Support, and Love.
I will not let you be a vermin nor a victim.
I will support your heart, your health, and your happiness
I will stand by you, and with you, but I will never support your habits.
I will never exploit you nor expose you.
I will do with you, for you, and because of you.
I will not harm you in words or in deeds.
I will not lie to you, for you, or with you.
I will always raise you up and never put you down.
We share a role in sisterhood all that is good for you is good for me.
I hurt if you hurt; I am healed when you are healed
Unity is the brace that holds us together.
With camaraderie, and solidarity I will protect your spirit, your legacy and your existence.
For I am:
A small part of you and every other woman that exist,
And you are a small part of me and every other woman that exist. Only together are we whole.
Sheila Robinson-Young
written 2007 © 10-21-09
I use to facilitate a Woman's Group called "Babylon Sisters" and our focus was on our responsiblity to women "both ourselves and others". I wrote this poem as a creed for our group.
The creed of Sisterhood
Sister
I am a friend to you, I am a friend to your soul, I offer you Peace, patience, Understanding, Empathy, Support, and Love.
I will not let you be a vermin nor a victim.
I will support your heart, your health, and your happiness
I will stand by you, and with you, but I will never support your habits.
I will never exploit you nor expose you.
I will do with you, for you, and because of you.
I will not harm you in words or in deeds.
I will not lie to you, for you, or with you.
I will always raise you up and never put you down.
We share a role in sisterhood all that is good for you is good for me.
I hurt if you hurt; I am healed when you are healed
Unity is the brace that holds us together.
With camaraderie, and solidarity I will protect your spirit, your legacy and your existence.
For I am:
A small part of you and every other woman that exist,
And you are a small part of me and every other woman that exist. Only together are we whole.
Sheila Robinson-Young
written 2007 © 10-21-09
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Quotes from M. Kimmel: What are little boys made of?
Reading this was like looking at one of those pictures that if you look long enough you see other things that stands out ,though you did not see it when you first looked. So this is a text written by a man about the dominate gender "males". after reading the text i just set and steared at it and here are a few quotes that jumps out of the page at you. Quotes like "There's a virtual war against boys", "America has been so focused on girls that we've forgotten about the boys" and "Feminists has wrecked boyhood" these qoutes are in reference to women fighting for equality, which is to say that the favoring of boys that has been going on over the years that leads to the need to fight for equality in the first place has done no harm to girls.
Other qoutes like "our educational systems forces naturally rambunctious boys to conform to a regime of obedience. With testosterone surging through their little limbs, boys are commanded to sit still, raise their hands and take naps". (just as little girls are.)"testosrone equals vitality,(it is as important in boys as estorgen is to girls). All we have to do is honor it and steer it into healthy directions". And the most far fetched quote was from Biddulph who explained boys refusal to listen to adult authority, by reference to the fact that "their ear canals develop in irregular spurts,"leading to a period of hearing loss". If this was true in any way it would not then be irregular as it would be a developmental stage for the human male speices. And Kindlon and Thompson writes in Raising Cain "the way to put boys on the path to a manhood of integrity, "we must contend with the culture of cruelty, that forces a boy to deny emotional neediness...". Emotional neediness is what we see when we insist that little girls not try to self pacifiy, when they want or need anything they can not have and we toddle them,pick them up and hug,rub and sooth them .
With all of this said there was a few quotes that stood out that was an asset to the subject. they were "the cause of all this posturing and posing is not testosterone of course, but privilege. " The real boy crisis usually goes by another name. We call it "teen violence, youth violence, gang violence, and violence in schools." Because lets face it boys are responsible for 85% of all violent crimes in American. And thanks to Paul Kivel who said "Raising boys to manhood means confronting racism, sexism, and homophobia both in our communities and in ourselves".
In all of this if we don't resolve ourselves to equality in the sexes (and in gender roles)doing the growing, learning and developing years we are short changing both our girls and our boys, understand that they will need each other as they proceed in this life.
Other qoutes like "our educational systems forces naturally rambunctious boys to conform to a regime of obedience. With testosterone surging through their little limbs, boys are commanded to sit still, raise their hands and take naps". (just as little girls are.)"testosrone equals vitality,(it is as important in boys as estorgen is to girls). All we have to do is honor it and steer it into healthy directions". And the most far fetched quote was from Biddulph who explained boys refusal to listen to adult authority, by reference to the fact that "their ear canals develop in irregular spurts,"leading to a period of hearing loss". If this was true in any way it would not then be irregular as it would be a developmental stage for the human male speices. And Kindlon and Thompson writes in Raising Cain "the way to put boys on the path to a manhood of integrity, "we must contend with the culture of cruelty, that forces a boy to deny emotional neediness...". Emotional neediness is what we see when we insist that little girls not try to self pacifiy, when they want or need anything they can not have and we toddle them,pick them up and hug,rub and sooth them .
With all of this said there was a few quotes that stood out that was an asset to the subject. they were "the cause of all this posturing and posing is not testosterone of course, but privilege. " The real boy crisis usually goes by another name. We call it "teen violence, youth violence, gang violence, and violence in schools." Because lets face it boys are responsible for 85% of all violent crimes in American. And thanks to Paul Kivel who said "Raising boys to manhood means confronting racism, sexism, and homophobia both in our communities and in ourselves".
In all of this if we don't resolve ourselves to equality in the sexes (and in gender roles)doing the growing, learning and developing years we are short changing both our girls and our boys, understand that they will need each other as they proceed in this life.
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Gloria Yamato... something about the subject make it hard to name.
Racism's first name is Supremacy,
with out supremacy that is White Supremacy rascism can not exist.and we are all so clearly aware that it does exsit. and it is for the united States the foundation of the very instiutions in which the United States has been built on. But it is what it is, and to name it any thing else would be White washing it (no pun intented). I agree that Ms.Yamato has made a fine point in classifing rascism but i think that we are way past the point of needing to know what category someones hate for us, falls in. Rascism is by far one of, if not the worse afflictions on man, it's not only about opression but it is also about the moral depletion of a race based on the self-rightousness of another. It has been up-held for so long that society has become blind to it. They call it laziness, that call it unqualifed, they call it under-educated, they call it low-class, they call it lack of connections , they call it everything they can to keep the un wanted color out of the administrative level of most corprations, businesses, and instuitions.there is two organizations that works on dismantling racism one is www.westernstatescenter.org. the other is http://dismantlingrasicism.org for a short time i was in a change group for dismantling rascim in the workplace. it was not an easy task to undertake and was soon dismantled it self as as it was so rootfully put " an interference to the morale of the company. How easy it was to find a name to shut it down. P.s i partically agreed r disagreed with one thing Ms.Yamato said that "people who have not thought about or refuse to acknowledge the inbalance of power/privilage often wants to talk about the rascim of people of color. people of color accept blame out of habit. i find that it is not accepting blame out of habit more then out of servival.
with out supremacy that is White Supremacy rascism can not exist.and we are all so clearly aware that it does exsit. and it is for the united States the foundation of the very instiutions in which the United States has been built on. But it is what it is, and to name it any thing else would be White washing it (no pun intented). I agree that Ms.Yamato has made a fine point in classifing rascism but i think that we are way past the point of needing to know what category someones hate for us, falls in. Rascism is by far one of, if not the worse afflictions on man, it's not only about opression but it is also about the moral depletion of a race based on the self-rightousness of another. It has been up-held for so long that society has become blind to it. They call it laziness, that call it unqualifed, they call it under-educated, they call it low-class, they call it lack of connections , they call it everything they can to keep the un wanted color out of the administrative level of most corprations, businesses, and instuitions.there is two organizations that works on dismantling racism one is www.westernstatescenter.org. the other is http://dismantlingrasicism.org for a short time i was in a change group for dismantling rascim in the workplace. it was not an easy task to undertake and was soon dismantled it self as as it was so rootfully put " an interference to the morale of the company. How easy it was to find a name to shut it down. P.s i partically agreed r disagreed with one thing Ms.Yamato said that "people who have not thought about or refuse to acknowledge the inbalance of power/privilage often wants to talk about the rascim of people of color. people of color accept blame out of habit. i find that it is not accepting blame out of habit more then out of servival.
Friday, October 7, 2011
Compulsory Heterosexuality
First let me begin by saying that this was maybe one of the hardest texts i've ever read, so i'm glad i had not blogged about it before class. As i would had been very general and sparadic, as it is all the information is still bounce around in my head. However if it was just to get society thinking, it would have to have achieved it's purpose 100%. I won't say much because i am not well versed on the subject, So here is what i got out of it and here is where i stand. My argument on lesbian continum is (and i tread lightly, that it is only my uneducated opinion)that the author has come up with a very good theory of emotional relationships based on the needs of females over the course of their lifetimes, but it is all too convenient for me. With just the minimum understanding that i have thus far I think it minimize lesbian relationships verses Male homosexual relationships. I would like to believe that homosexual choices are made much the same way that heterosexual choices are made: there are true committed relationships where the couple falls in love with each other, Heart and soul(not just sexually) but emotionally and maybe even spiritually as well. and there are the hook-ups where the couples just go for maybe the one night stand, or the occasional romp (so to speak) and some times it's the "i'm here for no better reason but to be here, in a relationship with some one, oppose to being alone. However in any case i would think that they have given serious thoughts into being and identifing them selves as lesbians, as there is such a society backlash to exposing yourself, that it would be a shame to put your self in harms way unless you were committed to your position.
On the other hand i feel that the Lesbian continum allows society to buy into the "lesbiaism is male envy or lesbiaism is cute syndrome". this is such a compulsory heterosexual stans; as by identifing lesbiaism as either cute or male envy it demeans the women's choices, it says that the women are either acting out and men are aroused and amused by it or the women hate them selves and just wants to be like men, so they attracts to other women just to experience what a man have. i personal don't think either of these things has any thing to do with a sexual orientations period.
On the other hand i feel that the Lesbian continum allows society to buy into the "lesbiaism is male envy or lesbiaism is cute syndrome". this is such a compulsory heterosexual stans; as by identifing lesbiaism as either cute or male envy it demeans the women's choices, it says that the women are either acting out and men are aroused and amused by it or the women hate them selves and just wants to be like men, so they attracts to other women just to experience what a man have. i personal don't think either of these things has any thing to do with a sexual orientations period.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Lawrence Meade
After giving much thoughts to Mr. Meade's comment that "if poor people behaved rationally, they would seldom be poor for long in the first place".
The best i could say about that is; that i truly hoped that that was not his professional opinion, less he be looking for another profession.
If our wealth was depended on just a matter of how we behaved. most of the poor would be at the top of the chain, as it is mostly the poor, common men that work the hardest, pays the most interest rates, and proved to be the most honest. while the wealthy sit down most of their work day, eating, drinking and talking, earning millions while basting on the back of a yacth while others steer, cook, pour, and serve them. and believe that for the most part they have no problem believing that their money make them more worthy of life and living. But of course that is just my voice.
On the other hand it was strongly depicted in the movie "People like us." while Tammy (for whom my heart went out to) showed more class then any of them. She lived within her means , did what she had to do to take care of her self and her children despite what they and others thought of it (she could sleep at night and face herself in the mirror) walking ten miles to work and ten miles home is as classy as one gets (yes, i know that that has nothing to do with CLASS, as they meant in the movie) but Tammy behaved as rationally as i would have, she needed to take care of herself and she did it the best that she could. I have no problem what so ever that she did not want to take welfare, as it is a haven for idleness, not because everyone who gets it is idle but because the programs themselves encouraged and embraced it for years, not only did they not allow you to work or have some items you do not get the chance to improve, you was either on it or you was off of it, so if you had three or four children like Tammy and you could not make $15 or more dollars an hour every day then you needed to stay on welfare because if you went out and made$7 an hour you needed to get off of assistance and pay back all while caring for yourself and 3 or 4 children. . I never understood helping those that don't help themselves but not helping those that trys to help them selves welfare should be support, not a crutch.
The most ill-rational thing i can think of is to sit back and allow others to do for you what you are responsible for doing for yourself. Entitlement is ill-rational!!!
In a capitalist society like ours, the deck is always stacked against the poor: for the most part if you are born poor, you are force to be educated in the worse funded and least supplied schools, receiving the least healthiest, least fresh foods, at the highest price (per), receiving the least amount of health care, and in return the least chance at a ivy-league education and even if you do get there you don't get the same fair treatment (per) situation, and then the least paying jobs (without a family name to go with everything else).
In my opinion, Tammy first of all behaved rationally for her situation, she needed a job to feed her family and she got one and kept it.
2ndly, ill-rational behave was the group of upper-middle class blacks who knew what it was to be oppressed getting to what they looked and longed for just to oppress others by keeping them out of their club (Jack and Jill)
3rd, was the red necks, there is just nothing wrong with liking your way of life. money is not everything and there was no indication that they were lacking for anything. they seemed more likely to stick together rather then to try to back stab their neighbor for something they wanted just for the sake of having it.
4th, the yuppies going to a dive, they were just so condescending. thinking that they fit in and was not only entitled to invade others place but to fake there acceptance. (tomorrow if they saw XYZ walking into their country clubs would they remember them and go buy them a drink, introduce them to their fathers and have lunch?
5th if a man was 30 years old and born into money, had never had a job,and his parents provided for him ,no one thinks he's a bum, but if he was born into poverty and never held a job and his parents provided for him he is a good, for nothing bum. go figure.
The best i could say about that is; that i truly hoped that that was not his professional opinion, less he be looking for another profession.
If our wealth was depended on just a matter of how we behaved. most of the poor would be at the top of the chain, as it is mostly the poor, common men that work the hardest, pays the most interest rates, and proved to be the most honest. while the wealthy sit down most of their work day, eating, drinking and talking, earning millions while basting on the back of a yacth while others steer, cook, pour, and serve them. and believe that for the most part they have no problem believing that their money make them more worthy of life and living. But of course that is just my voice.
On the other hand it was strongly depicted in the movie "People like us." while Tammy (for whom my heart went out to) showed more class then any of them. She lived within her means , did what she had to do to take care of her self and her children despite what they and others thought of it (she could sleep at night and face herself in the mirror) walking ten miles to work and ten miles home is as classy as one gets (yes, i know that that has nothing to do with CLASS, as they meant in the movie) but Tammy behaved as rationally as i would have, she needed to take care of herself and she did it the best that she could. I have no problem what so ever that she did not want to take welfare, as it is a haven for idleness, not because everyone who gets it is idle but because the programs themselves encouraged and embraced it for years, not only did they not allow you to work or have some items you do not get the chance to improve, you was either on it or you was off of it, so if you had three or four children like Tammy and you could not make $15 or more dollars an hour every day then you needed to stay on welfare because if you went out and made$7 an hour you needed to get off of assistance and pay back all while caring for yourself and 3 or 4 children. . I never understood helping those that don't help themselves but not helping those that trys to help them selves welfare should be support, not a crutch.
The most ill-rational thing i can think of is to sit back and allow others to do for you what you are responsible for doing for yourself. Entitlement is ill-rational!!!
In a capitalist society like ours, the deck is always stacked against the poor: for the most part if you are born poor, you are force to be educated in the worse funded and least supplied schools, receiving the least healthiest, least fresh foods, at the highest price (per), receiving the least amount of health care, and in return the least chance at a ivy-league education and even if you do get there you don't get the same fair treatment (per) situation, and then the least paying jobs (without a family name to go with everything else).
In my opinion, Tammy first of all behaved rationally for her situation, she needed a job to feed her family and she got one and kept it.
2ndly, ill-rational behave was the group of upper-middle class blacks who knew what it was to be oppressed getting to what they looked and longed for just to oppress others by keeping them out of their club (Jack and Jill)
3rd, was the red necks, there is just nothing wrong with liking your way of life. money is not everything and there was no indication that they were lacking for anything. they seemed more likely to stick together rather then to try to back stab their neighbor for something they wanted just for the sake of having it.
4th, the yuppies going to a dive, they were just so condescending. thinking that they fit in and was not only entitled to invade others place but to fake there acceptance. (tomorrow if they saw XYZ walking into their country clubs would they remember them and go buy them a drink, introduce them to their fathers and have lunch?
5th if a man was 30 years old and born into money, had never had a job,and his parents provided for him ,no one thinks he's a bum, but if he was born into poverty and never held a job and his parents provided for him he is a good, for nothing bum. go figure.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Sites for the week.
I visited both site a couple of times this week. first of all sorry for late entry, had computer trouble last night and had to wait until i got to work this morning to post.
however i spent the most time on the "people like us"site . read all the stories, i can really relate to Karen in a small way. After losing my home and business and having to file bankruptcy it been tough but it's only stuff and i never regretted. I truly enjoyed and would do most of it over again. I was able to give my children a great home and a pretty good life growing up and thank god that it always been more about us then the money and the things. But i can see how the rise and fall from (Money) GRACE thing is not easy.
But one thing that radianted across all the stories was how the relationships was affected due to the money issues. ginny's daughter, Charles' family not visiting, Val's parents, robert's and her new beau's family behaviors. I also really liked the games (i like all games) played then each a couple of times, the chintz and shag game alway came out in about the same area. but i could not get the "idenifyn this" one at all.in the name that class every answer was either middle class or blue collar only one will be new money .
i also looked up the claritas.com website which took me to the http://www.nielsen.com/ for which i was a survey subject for two years. i really need to have more time on this site.
however i spent the most time on the "people like us"site . read all the stories, i can really relate to Karen in a small way. After losing my home and business and having to file bankruptcy it been tough but it's only stuff and i never regretted. I truly enjoyed and would do most of it over again. I was able to give my children a great home and a pretty good life growing up and thank god that it always been more about us then the money and the things. But i can see how the rise and fall from (Money) GRACE thing is not easy.
But one thing that radianted across all the stories was how the relationships was affected due to the money issues. ginny's daughter, Charles' family not visiting, Val's parents, robert's and her new beau's family behaviors. I also really liked the games (i like all games) played then each a couple of times, the chintz and shag game alway came out in about the same area. but i could not get the "idenifyn this" one at all.in the name that class every answer was either middle class or blue collar only one will be new money .
i also looked up the claritas.com website which took me to the http://www.nielsen.com/ for which i was a survey subject for two years. i really need to have more time on this site.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Providence Slut walk
Went to Providence's slutwalk Yesterday, it was an event for a worthy cause so i was most disappointed that there was such a small turn out. however it was not well advertised either, as i had learned about it only through class and heard others there say that they just happened by. i was sadden to see that only one person came out from any of the D.V organizations.and i hope that it was due to lack of knowledge of the event rather then they wanted to disassocate them selves with the name.
it's sad that people lost a great opportunity to stand up and support such a wonderful and worthy cause. but more on the event. not only was it poorly attended but it was poorly organized and not well supported. it was great that they allow anyone to speak but the did not have a proper speaker, even the organizers who spoke was unseasoned and ill-prepared and worse of all they too spoke against the name of the event in detail, on the plus side there were some great poems and readings. : )
it's sad that people lost a great opportunity to stand up and support such a wonderful and worthy cause. but more on the event. not only was it poorly attended but it was poorly organized and not well supported. it was great that they allow anyone to speak but the did not have a proper speaker, even the organizers who spoke was unseasoned and ill-prepared and worse of all they too spoke against the name of the event in detail, on the plus side there were some great poems and readings. : )
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Privilege, Power and difference By: Allen G.Johnson
i would like to give Mr.Johnson all the credit that is due him, as he has not only made this as in personable as possible, in order to tackle this issue from his point of view without putting in his per conceived biases however stating the biases as they exist. for if he had not stated the biases he would have been just another do-good-er making excuses as he feed off of the privileges he admits to having. Another word that Mr. Johnson did not use that is very hard to swallow is Supremacy as in (White Supremacy) E.G "to be supreme or of power and/or Authority. by denying this word and replacing it with Privilege it has taken away a like of hurt and ugliness but more importantly it has taken away creditability. that is not to say that Mr. Johnson has not put forth and Honorable effort but that he has fail short in his efforts.
I had been a participate in and group called (DRW) Dismantling Racism works (infor@dismantlingracism.org) in particularly i was a member of the Change Team that worked on dismantling racism in the work place. in 2007 i wrote and submitted two articles. one is submitted below the other i have both a copy of the article and a response from a member of another change organized group from the state Gov'ts office.
Institutional Racism
Racism is a society norm built and based on the institutional structure of our united states.
And we all (being citizens) feels that we are well within our rights to live (blindly as we are) within the reams of that structure, with out being called out about it or with out it being called to conscience.
However it is not only taboo to speak on it, but also to claim, deny, or admit it.
The basic set-up of our society, it’s hierarchy as well as it’s structure and it’s foundation has been built and solidified on what we allow and not allow certain races, religions, cultures and or sexual preference persons to be, do, say, what he or she may be included in or excluded from.
It is not for any small reason or any short rhyme why we;
The united states have yet to have had any one other then an all white male leader in the full seven hundred plus years history of this country.
Why in a place that less then a quarter percent of it people are of the minority persuasion (white) it still refers to the other seventy five percent as the minorities.
Suppressed, oppressed and depressed….
The simple fact that we have written laws to remind us as a (country) how to handle ourselves with these situations, is a testimony to the fundamental institution of racism, that has been accepted with out question by the masses.
Evolving into a podium of levels that includes even the minorities them selves.
Enticing us to take false pride in the simplest of things that we ourselves have no control over. Like our color, our shades, our hair texture, who or what we pray to or for, who or what someone chose to sleep with, what country someone, mother and or father originated from and a full gamut of other genetic or heredity make-ups.
It is a wonder how long the citizens of this country can hold out accepting his and her fore fathers ill gotten inherits, how it has been just okay to forget and forgive his and her unacceptable behaviors as “that’s just the way things were then”.
Monday, September 12, 2011
just a few words..
My aurugment on the text opression is... that i readed and re-read the text opression; and found it was a difficult read for me. not that i could not read it but after taking note on it and re-reading it i was all over the place with what i wanted to reflect on.
the author was all over the place with her descriptions of " the opressor is opressed by the action of opressing someone else????
opression is a volunteer (controlable) action not a involuntor action. it is in fact all about control.
how ever i do get what she is saying about the opressor being opressed. but only in the context of he/she not having the power in the first place, thus he/she must control someone or something else in order to believe that he/she has the power or control. "oh what a tangle web we weave..."
the author was all over the place with her descriptions of " the opressor is opressed by the action of opressing someone else????
opression is a volunteer (controlable) action not a involuntor action. it is in fact all about control.
how ever i do get what she is saying about the opressor being opressed. but only in the context of he/she not having the power in the first place, thus he/she must control someone or something else in order to believe that he/she has the power or control. "oh what a tangle web we weave..."
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
reflections on text the F-Word
the F- Word Feminism in jeopardy By: Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner
Reflecting on page 29 in Examine incidents of intolerance, prejudice, and Denial .
it is my experience as a double minority to view with skepticism all things that are not within my direct control, as far as protocols. if it should be i would like to believe that it will be, but add in biases and prejudices and i standardly believe that it without a doubt will not be.
this is so with the Feminism movement and just as so with the color barrier and the feminism movement.
Some standard, so called innocent, institutionalized thinking over the century, has hindered the feminism movement and it will continue to proceed at a snails pace forward and a rabbits pace backwards if we continue to wear blinders and sell out to divisions in order to achieve what we so rightfully should be awarded.
we can not seek fairness and equality as a feminist if we can not seek fairness and equality over the gamete of discriminatory issues that are fought parallel to feminism.
notwithstanding it is my belief that we must define clearly what we in fact are calling equalities and what we are seeking in our movements. if we in fact would like to be treated equally would we also want to take out the trash, and get up in the mid of the night to search out the sound of breaking glass, or make the mid night milk run. would we want to kill the spiders, and go up on the roof.
we can not say that these are things that we are exempted from because we feed the babies or give birth etc. we can not hold against them what they are not capable of doing ( that which is out of all of our control). you see feminism is hindered by institutional thinking, instilled in us as our normal upbringing and unless we question that we are only fighting for what we want not what we deserve.
think about it ... how many of us have brought into the pink and purple is for little girls, and baby dolls are for little girls, tools are for boys...so how do we intent for our boys to learn about soft and beauty or caring and nurturing before they become young men, why shouldn't every woman try to fix the faucet before she call her husband or plumber?
why do we think that men are for the most part stand offish about marriage or get cold feet, if we let the female believe all of there lives that this day is just for them. if the day is not also about the man then why should he participate? for century we told women to marry well, rather then to get educated and support your self ... yes i know how and why that started but remember we are suppose to be years beyond that, women have been lawyers and Doctors for many many years now. why depend on a husband?
lastly we shun a man with out a job but it is harder for some men to get hire for many reasons, yet if they stay home and keep a clean , well organized home, take care of the food, the kids and the laundry we whisper that he is living off the back of a woman but a house wive is fine. Men should never hit a woman www.ricadv.org but a woman scorned (rejected) should slap a man's face? equality ... we are our own worst enemies.
Reflecting on page 29 in Examine incidents of intolerance, prejudice, and Denial .
it is my experience as a double minority to view with skepticism all things that are not within my direct control, as far as protocols. if it should be i would like to believe that it will be, but add in biases and prejudices and i standardly believe that it without a doubt will not be.
this is so with the Feminism movement and just as so with the color barrier and the feminism movement.
Some standard, so called innocent, institutionalized thinking over the century, has hindered the feminism movement and it will continue to proceed at a snails pace forward and a rabbits pace backwards if we continue to wear blinders and sell out to divisions in order to achieve what we so rightfully should be awarded.
we can not seek fairness and equality as a feminist if we can not seek fairness and equality over the gamete of discriminatory issues that are fought parallel to feminism.
notwithstanding it is my belief that we must define clearly what we in fact are calling equalities and what we are seeking in our movements. if we in fact would like to be treated equally would we also want to take out the trash, and get up in the mid of the night to search out the sound of breaking glass, or make the mid night milk run. would we want to kill the spiders, and go up on the roof.
we can not say that these are things that we are exempted from because we feed the babies or give birth etc. we can not hold against them what they are not capable of doing ( that which is out of all of our control). you see feminism is hindered by institutional thinking, instilled in us as our normal upbringing and unless we question that we are only fighting for what we want not what we deserve.
think about it ... how many of us have brought into the pink and purple is for little girls, and baby dolls are for little girls, tools are for boys...so how do we intent for our boys to learn about soft and beauty or caring and nurturing before they become young men, why shouldn't every woman try to fix the faucet before she call her husband or plumber?
why do we think that men are for the most part stand offish about marriage or get cold feet, if we let the female believe all of there lives that this day is just for them. if the day is not also about the man then why should he participate? for century we told women to marry well, rather then to get educated and support your self ... yes i know how and why that started but remember we are suppose to be years beyond that, women have been lawyers and Doctors for many many years now. why depend on a husband?
lastly we shun a man with out a job but it is harder for some men to get hire for many reasons, yet if they stay home and keep a clean , well organized home, take care of the food, the kids and the laundry we whisper that he is living off the back of a woman but a house wive is fine. Men should never hit a woman www.ricadv.org but a woman scorned (rejected) should slap a man's face? equality ... we are our own worst enemies.
Who am i ? What am i? that in which you can not understand.
Hello all,
it seems that in my haste i've fail to properly introduce myself.
it's an easier mistake then most would think, as i am as most women so complicated that i just don't know where to start.
well first it would be wise to start with what i know for sure, and that is that my name is Sheila Annette Robinson-Young. i am the mother of 4 grown sons, 2 grown step-sons and 1 grown step-daughter,and a new daughter-in-law of whom i all adore, but my heart belongs to my 5 grandchildren (oh and my husband of 23 years falls somewhere amist the masses).
i am a full-time student hoping to graduate May 2013, i work two full time jobs one as a Residential Program Manager at a group-home for which i have worked for 23 years as of last month, and at a D.V safe house for which i have been for 9 years.
I love to both read and write so school is my hobbie but not an easy one.
I am a backsliding hounder and love auctions, yard-sales and any other bargian for while i can resist none,
however i am a giver so nothing goes to waste.
I've signed up for this class for 3 reasons 1. the challange...2 one of my core class... and 3 being a 6 sided woman, if half of me is so sure that i know who and what i am the other half is lost and seeking, searching, exploring and just might find myself or some of myself here in this class, this subject... this movement.
p.s the title of this post is also the title of one of my poems.
it seems that in my haste i've fail to properly introduce myself.
it's an easier mistake then most would think, as i am as most women so complicated that i just don't know where to start.
well first it would be wise to start with what i know for sure, and that is that my name is Sheila Annette Robinson-Young. i am the mother of 4 grown sons, 2 grown step-sons and 1 grown step-daughter,and a new daughter-in-law of whom i all adore, but my heart belongs to my 5 grandchildren (oh and my husband of 23 years falls somewhere amist the masses).
i am a full-time student hoping to graduate May 2013, i work two full time jobs one as a Residential Program Manager at a group-home for which i have worked for 23 years as of last month, and at a D.V safe house for which i have been for 9 years.
I love to both read and write so school is my hobbie but not an easy one.
I am a backsliding hounder and love auctions, yard-sales and any other bargian for while i can resist none,
however i am a giver so nothing goes to waste.
I've signed up for this class for 3 reasons 1. the challange...2 one of my core class... and 3 being a 6 sided woman, if half of me is so sure that i know who and what i am the other half is lost and seeking, searching, exploring and just might find myself or some of myself here in this class, this subject... this movement.
p.s the title of this post is also the title of one of my poems.
Friday, September 2, 2011
thinking about what women think about.
Sometimes it's a wonder to me what i be thinking about. and wonder if other women think about what i be thinking about.
just something to think about.
started reading my two articles so need to get back to that.
just something to think about.
started reading my two articles so need to get back to that.
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